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Is Homer Simpson a Great Dad?

By: Jesse Dolan

Recently I was reminded how little value our culture puts on a dad. Often the media portrays a father as bumbling self absorbed igit who punches a clock every day and is out of touch with the rest of the world and their family. (Think Raymond, Homer Simpson, etc.). This often is done for a cheap laugh…

Seriously though, where in today’s society can we get good training on what a father does in his role as a parent or as a leader of his family?

A friend recently answered this question. In this society a figure that is highly revered is a Coach… a coach develops strategy, has a play book, selects players, works with them on their hearts and minds as well as their bodies, celebrates with them, takes a hard loss with them, leads them into new competitions, sets up practice plays, manages the teams resources (time and money) and casts a vision and goals to get there.

Today’s fathers have rarely been given a vision as the “coach of a family”, but they have been given the desire to do so. So they coach sports, they coach at church, they coach at work, they coach in charity events in non profits, on boards, they plan events with friends etc. Or things go wrong with their current team (family) and they become free agents and move on to a more exciting life….

What would America look like if husbands and fathers were given the vision to be the coach of their family? That God gave them an amazing helper/assistant coach as his wife, that He has blessed him with talented little ones, each special and created in God’s image to grow up and fulfill the vision their Fathers casts for his team? What if he taught his family how to win together, how to struggle together, how to suffer a loss together, how to conquer fears together?

What if a father casted a vision for spreading the gospel together, of discipling others? If he identified the strengths of his team, what made their family special their “familiness” if you will. Perhaps your family is really good at serving together. Or telling stories together. Of welcoming others. Of creating a peaceful environment together. Competing, Art, Music, Gardening….. What is the theme of your family? How can you use this theme to seek God’s Kingdom and share Him with others?

When you start thinking of yourself as a coach, a really good coach that cares as much about this game we call life, as the character of His players, you end up with a powerful force…. the family. Which was God’s plan for covering His planet with loving sons and daughters.

27 So God created mankind in his own image,
in the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them.
28 God blessed them and said to them,
“Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it.
Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”

I have found this thought of coaching my family to be very eye opening and inspiring.